Are you an anxious person? Do you experience stress that escalates “all of a sudden” and feel totally out of your depth?
Do you often feel you fail your own expectations or the expectations of others?
As a mother we are expected (rightly or wrongly), to meet and exceed those expectations.
There seems to be an increasing amount of people suffering from anxiety (which is closely related to depression), especially in this motherhood department. Or maybe we are just more open about talking about our problems now?
Busy lifestyles, increasing expectations on ourselves, irrational thoughts, creating the “what if’s” into something bigger than they really turn out to be, life’s demands stretching our limits, all contribute to anxiety and depression.
I must admit this topic is a little out of my depth.
I have had a dear friend recently experience feelings of anxiety and irrational thoughts, so I thought I would share this post as a resource for others to find out more and to share how to cope on a day to day basis.
- hot and cold flushes
- racing heart
- tightening of the chest
- snowballing worries
- obsessive thinking and compulsive behaviour.
There are actually a few types of anxiety which would be diagnosed by a health professional. 1 in 4 people experience anxiety and/or depression in Australia (beyond blue) as well as a multitude of signs and symptoms depending on the type of anxiety.
Most of the ways to treat anxiety include psychological behaviour therapy, lifestyle changes (exercise), self-therapies e.g. controlled breathing or meditations, or medical treatments such as medications which require to be assessed by a medical professional.
Bloggers who have shared their anxiety thoughts & self care on their blogs:
Another website that had more comprehensive information about Anxiety and Depression was Taking Charge of Your Health and Wellbeing.
How does Anxiety impact on Motherhood?
Debilitating. Feelings of being a bad mother. Emotional mood swings. Impatience with the kids. A feeling of separation or isolation from your children. Overwhelming feelings of sadness.
If you are suffering from anxiety this post from Katherine explaining her feelings and symptoms as a mother who suffers from post-partum depression and anxiety may give you some idea that you are not alone.
Lifeline 13 11 14
Beyondblue 1300 22 4636
How Midwives can help Mothers experiencing Anxiety and Depression:
Listen: Most of the time midwives need to identify women with high risk for anxiety and depression during the antenatal period and support them with the tools to continue through their pregnancy at optimum health.
No Judgement: As a midwife, we meet women and families from all walks of life and experiences. We need to keep an open mind and realise that there are a variety of reasons for people’s lifestyle. No judgement required.
Provide and Contact supports for Women e.g. social workers, psychological referrals, liaisons with doctor, patient’s family members, possible home help with chores/cleaning/meals.
Referrals to : The Community Child Health Nurse, Visiting Midwife Services (daily contact after leaving hospital once baby is born)
How else can health professionals support you if you are suffering from anxiety or depression? What self-care tips do you have for other women going through a similar experience?
This post is not sponsored in any way with the above websites.